Why it's OK to be Single in College

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Whether you’re in a relationship or not, we all have a “timeline”.  You know, the timeline that we magically came up with one day that determines when we’re getting engaged, married, and having little mini me’s running around. Well, we’re here to tell you to throw that timeline away!  This is your life; not a book, and life is unpredictable.  Just because all of your friends are getting boyfriends doesn’t mean that you have to suddenly get a boyfriend!  Today's post is for all of you single ladies… we’re here to tell you why it’s okay to be single during college!

1. Build amazing friendships

College is the best time to build life-long friendships. Experience things with your friends and make great memories during your college years.  Once you’re out in the real world, it’s a little more difficult to find time to hang out with girlfriends! Your friends are your support group and the people that will always be by your side.

2. Career girl

Not that having a boyfriend disables you from pursuing your career, but your “life changing” decisions may be affected by your relationship- such as graduating, getting a job, and moving! This is your life. Work hard and put extra hours for that dream job of yours!

3. I-N-D-E-P-E-N-D-E-N-T

Being independent isn’t a “pride” thing- it’s knowing how to be on your own, being comfortable with who you are, and learning how to deal with things without anyone’s help.  In your twenties, it’s especially important to learn about independence because it’s the decade of personal growth.  Enjoy a Friday night alone… it’s rejuvenating!

4. Be selfish

Once you are married and have kids, you have to make decisions depending on other people’s best interests. This is the one time in your life where you can make decisions for yourself and no one else’s. Take advantage of this time and be selfish and focus on achieving your wants and needs!

5. The world is your oyster

This is your life! Do what you want, whenever you want!  Take the opportunities that life has to offer and make sure to live life with no regrets! Oh... and TRAVEL!

6. Go on dates!

Just because we’re all for being single during college, doesn’t mean we’re anti-boys! We encourage you to go on dates, have fun, and take this time to figure out what qualities you want in your future significant other!  It’s all about trial and error!

The Single Girl’s Guide to Valentine’s Day

 

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Oh, the joy of Valentine’s Day! Heart shaped candy, flowers, love in the air…and, of course, the constant reminder that you’re single.  Now on the 21^st year of my solo V-Day Streak, I like to think of myself as somewhat of a Veteran. As an expert in the field, the one lesson I have learned from February 14^th is that, yes, you may be painfully aware of your single status, but that doesn’t have to be a bad thing. College is a time for self-discovery. This is the only point in a girl’s life where she is allowed to be completely, utterly, unforgivingly, selfish and stupid. Make mistakes, take risks, and most importantly, don’t ever apologize for being who you want to be. So, put down the Ben and Jerry’s, turn off “The Notebook,” grab your best girlfriends and make this V-Day a celebration of being young, single, and absolutely fabulous! *Cue “Independent” by Webbie*

Here are some ideas on how to make your single and sassy V-Day your best one yet:

1.     Throw a Party: What better way to celebrate than a few cupcakes, a little vino, and Beyoncé on repeat? For a fun little twist, do a Valentine’s gift exchange with your friends.

2.     Movie Date: not in the mood to party? Luckily there are a variety of movies premiering on Valentine’s Day this year. If you’re in the mood for romance? Find a show time for “Endless Love.” Two words: Alex Pettyfer. Feeling extra lonely? Opt for the movie “Her” and be thankful you’re not in love with a talking computer. And if you’re just looking for some laughs, check out Kevin Hart’s new comedy, “About Last Night.”

3.     Appreciate Yourself: Make this day about you by treating your body to a relaxing day of self-indulgence. Take hot yoga class, or a long walk to your favorite nearby spot. Eat healthy, because your body deserves to be treated well. Find a local spa or splurge on a mani-pedi.  Just feel like sleeping in? Do it! This day should be about you.

4.     GNO: That’s right, I’m not afraid of a little vintage Miley.  If you’re not familiar with the song, I’m talking about a classic Girl’s Night Out. Go out to dinner, hit your local bar or dance spot, and make the most of your night!